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Are you positive you want this? You can win back ex husbands, boyfriends, wives, girlfriends, whatever it is you lost. All you need is a primer in influence. There are things you can say and things you can do, that stack the odds overwhelmingly in your favor. We need to first analyze your relationship. If you were an exclusive couple for less than 6 months, you need to just move on.. Let it go, and find someone else. If your history together was longer, you can win back an ex with a proper plan. Understand this, your ex does not want to be alone. Humans are pack animals, and want a mate by nature. It is not too late if they have invested time and emotion with you. Life is full of paradoxes, and here is a big one. If you want to win back an ex, you have to pretend you do not want them. Here is the first step, call your ex and agree with the break up, tell them it was a good idea and for the best. Then do not go further, do not explain, do not elaborate, and whatever you do, do not tell them you want to be friends. They must believe it is totally over in your eyes. Next item, make no contact for three to four weeks. No texting, asking their friends about them, comments on MySpace, email,nothing. Their loneliness (yours too) will peak at three weeks. This is when they are the most vulnerable. If your ex contacts you in the three weeks of silence, great. But you must initiate contact for three or four weeks, unless you made a fool of yourself at the beginning, then give it a couple extra weeks. Now call them and invite them for an innocent rendezvous, like coffee or lunch. Keep it innocent with a 30 minute time limit. No dinner, movie, party, etc. When you meet keep it light. You need to act like it is a first date, because it is. You know how to make them laugh, do it. The chances are they will have forgotten your faults and only remember the good times you had together. Have your ex remember some of the pleasant memories you had together. This is important. You know your ex better than you think, pay attention to HOW they talk, notice the speed, tone and inflection they use. Do they use picture words, sound words, or feeling words? (Like I see (picture) what you're saying. I hear (sound) what you're saying. What your saying feels good (feeling).) Use these same kinds of words back to them in the same pitch, tone, and speed that they do. Pretend you are a mirror to their body language. If they cross their legs, cross yours. If they gesture with their left hand, use your right. Be somewhat subtle, not like a 6 year old and you will not get caught. When you talk, talk at the same rate they are breathing, breathe with them. Once you do this for a couple of minutes, you move and see if they do too. Touch your ear, and see if they touch theirs. If they do, you have built enough rapport to clinch them back into your life. Take it slow and learn more about human nature, you only have three weeks to learn everything you need to know. Develop a plan and learn all the secret psychological tricks of the trade.
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